- Reblogged from Kelly Magovern
Snowy Railway ~ Saskatchewan, Canada
- Reblogged from OpticOverload
SO many people I know are struggling with insomnia right now. It seems like every second post I read says something like “I can’t sleep” or “Insomnia…we meet AGAIN”. I used to suffer from chronic insomnia. My insomnia was aggravated by autoimmune issues and chronic high levels of stress, BUT it was primarily caused by my BRUTAL “sleep hygiene”, which is the actual term. I never went to bed at the same time, never woke up at the same time, etc. and royally messed up my circadian rhythm.
These tips may or may not help you, depending on the cause of your insomnia. These are some of the things I did to change my sleep cycle for the better:
1) No matter what, always set an alarm for the exact same time every single day, WITHOUT FAIL. That includes weekends! I set my alarm for 6am and made myself get out of bed at that same time every single day. After doing that for quite some time, I now naturally wake up between 6 or 6.30 every morning, though I still set an alarm just to be safe. I also suggest going to sleep at the same time every single night…again, even on the weekends. However, once you start waking up at the same time every morning, you will naturally get tired around the same time every night.
2) Take 2,000 International Units (50 mcg) of Vitamin D every morning with breakfast, without fail. This is especially important in the winter months when you aren’t getting enough sunlight. It is basically “tricking” your body into “thinking” that it has had a nice big dose of sunlight, and this will help regulate your circadian rhythm. In addition, if you live in a place that gets bright sunlight in the winter mornings, go outside for a brief walk before work.
3) Don’t have ANY caffeine in ANY form after 12 noon….this includes coffee, tea, chocolate, pop, etc. You might be sensitive to caffeine, which means that caffeine stays in your system much longer than it does for other people. Decaf coffee and tea are your friends.
4) Do NOT use your bed as a place to work or concentrate on stressful matters. Learn to associate your bed (and possibly your entire bedroom) ONLY with relaxation and sleep. If you find that your mind starts to burst with ideas and thoughts when you try to go to sleep at night, go to the living room or another room in the house to read or do something else to distract you from your buzzing brain. Look around your bedroom, too. Is there anything in the area that is triggering your mind to think about stressful things in your life? If so, remove it. Do not bring work-related items to bed or keep them in your room.
5) Once you start feeling tired at night, go to sleep right away. LISTEN to your body. Don’t try to push through that feeling of tiredness. If you do, you will likely experience a “second wind”, making you feel a rush of energy and making it difficult to fall asleep until much later. I remember always feeling tried around 11pm every night during my first uni degree, and instead of listening to my body, I would usually push through in order to study or finish up some work around the house. I would then experience a second wind, and wouldn’t feel tired again until around 2am. Not cool if you have to wake up early the next morning for class or work.
6) Meditate or practice deep breathing right before bed. Try to clear your mind of stressful thoughts and tell yourself, “I can deal with THAT thought tomorrow. I can deal with THAT task tomorrow…..”
If you try these and other tips out there related to insomnia but continue to have issues, you might need to examine food intolerances or various health issues. Chronic stress or emotional strain can also be the culprit, in which case some form of therapy or counselling could really help. Unresolved issues often pick the night time to pester you, because that’s usually the time when your brain is not distracted with other mundane tasks.
(image via jennyterasaki)
According to National Geographic, this is what the average American will look like in the year 2050.
This is neat… because it’s true that we don’t pay teachers enough.
- Reblogged from Aut viam inveniam aut faciam...
In 1937 two women caused a car accident by wearing shorts in public for the first time
In 1937 a careless driver caused an accident when he took his eyes off the road to ogle 2 women wearing shorts in public for the first time.
fucking thank you
Yes! Nice fix…
Psychology: Frontiers and Applications
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I started having sex with adult men when I was 13 years old.
Neglected at home and ostracized at school, I found comfort in the sexual attentions of older men. Unlike boys my own age, who cruelly taunted me, older men were nice to me. Unlike my emotionally distant father, older men paid attention to me. They were grooming me, but to that chubby, attention-starved teenage girl, their attentions felt a lot like love.
And so I created Prodigy chat rooms with names like “13yo girl home alone” and spent hours chatting and having phone sex with the men who would find me there. I “dated” men in their 20s and 30s that I met at the movie theater, online or hanging around local college town with my other underage girlfriends. I pursued these relationships with with Lolita-like abandon. The terrifying thing is how few adult men ever said no.
I was not coerced. I consented to all these sexual encounters in the basest sense of the world. But I was making choices that I wasn’t emotionally equipped to make. Legally, that’s why statutory rape laws exist. Because like an intoxicated person, an underage person is not truly capable of informed consent.
And yet, on Monday, Stacey Rambold, a Senior High teacher convicted of raping 14-year-old Cherice Morales, who later committed suicide, was sentenced to spend just 30 days in jail. The judge justified his decision in part by saying he listened to recorded statements given by Morales before her death and believes that while she was a troubled youth, she was “as much in control of the situation” as Rambold.
The judge also said Morales was “older than her chronological age.”
Yep, you read that right. A 14-year-old ” troubled youth” who eventually committed suicide (as a direct result of the sexual assault and its aftermath, according to her mother) had “control over the situation” with a 49-year-old rapist. But don’t worry, this wasn’t “the kind of rape most people think about,” according to Judge G. Todd Baugh. “It was not a violent, forcible, beat-the-victim rape, like you see in the movies.” He generously added that “It was nonetheless a rape…and this should not have occurred.”
After the sentencing, the victim’s mother shouted “You people suck!” repeatedly before storming out of the court, and later told news cameras, “My faith in the justice system is gone.”
While researching this article, I read many comments supporting the judge’s decision, all predicated on the idea that the 14-year-old victim had consented to sex with her 49-year-old teacher.
"There is little to no information given about what the nature of the relationship was, how it started, how long it lasted, how the girl felt about the relationship or perceived it, how much consent … she gave in regards to it all, but all signs point to the fact that this was an ongoing relationship where they engaged in sex on at least 3 occasions, which strongly brings to question just how much actual victimization took place here," wrote one commenter.
The fact is, a 14-year-old girl may be capable of agreeing to sex with a 49-year-old man, but she doesn’t have the emotional and mental maturity to consent. I was 25 before I realized that every man I’d slept with as a teenager was a pedophile. It seemed to me that since I’d courted the attention, that I was fully culpable. What teenager believes she is not mentally or emotionally capable of full consent? I thought I was an adult, although when I look at the picture of myself from the time period above, I see a child.
I thought I was the exception for these men, the girl so precocious and advanced that it superseded social norms. I thought that I was “older than my chronological age.”
It never occurred to me as a young sexually active teen that the adult men I had relationships with may have been manipulating me, that they had designs and motives I couldn’t see from my limited child’s perspective.
Once, I met a 28-year-old man online and went to his house for a “date.” He began to undress me almost immediately — I went along with it because I wanted him to like me, and our sexual encounter culminated with him holding my head down and ejaculating into my throat while I sputtered and struggled to pull away. Later, I couldn’t understand why he never called me again, why he didn’t want to be my boyfriend.
Because I was a child, I was missing large pieces of the perspective required to understand adult situations. Children can be sexual. Children can pursue. Girl children in particular may have already learned how to manipulate and bargain with their sexuality at a very young age. They are still children. Like all children, they test boundaries, boundaries that adults must set and maintain.
If Cherice Morales was indeed a “troubled youth,” like I was, if she came from a dysfunctional home or had a trauma background or had been previously abused, then not only may she have been lacking in protection at home, she may have been especially incapable of protecting herself. And that’s why statutory rape laws exist — to protect children who need protecting, not just from those who will prey upon them, but from themselves.
The defense argued that Rambold had suffered enough by losing his career, his marriage and his home and suffering a “scarlet letter of the Internet” as a result of publicity about the case.
For my part, I spent the next decade of my life wrestling with demons borne partly of sexual trauma. I became addicted to drugs, risky sex, and alcohol. I still struggle to learn that there are better ways to get attention than with my body, that my sexuality isn’t the only thing that makes me worthy of love and attention.
Still, I made it out of my teen years alive; Cherice Morales wasn’t so lucky.
What I needed, and what she needed, were strong male role models in my life who knew how the fuck to say “No thanks” to a little girl’s come-ons. Because it doesn’t matter if a young girl is saying yes, it’s an adult man’s job to say no.
Judge G. Todd Baugh - you and everyone like you are what keeps rape/sexist culture alive! Please go far away…
David Gaider (via riseabovethemadness)
- Reblogged from spiderloops
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A secret garden. See more florals in W’s Mood Board.
Photo by Mert Alas and Marcus Piggott, W Magazine September 2012
- Reblogged from W Magazine
- Camera: Nikon D700
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by Alicia Savage